TOW#465 — Different perceptions
We all have our own personal views on things. Having that in mind, it is natural to conclude that they are not always the same between two or more people.
If we consider all factors that surround us, the different perceptions are very normal thing and we will be only required to adapt, or not, to the fact that it is possible for someone to have different perspective on things compared to our perspective. However, the issue here is because:
1. We do not understand why some people view the things differently than we do!?
2. Our attitude that — it will be as I say so, or none — prevents us from understanding that there are people with perceptions on things that are different from our perceptions.
3. The character of the interlocutor/s which does not allow you to be understood exactly as you should be (that is, your perception).
So, what is the issue now?
Since the word “characters” appears twice, it somehow comes naturally that the issue is in our characters and, equivalently, the way we see things (as it was already mentioned above) — it will be as I say so, or non! To be honest, here is my advice on this issue:
No matter how important is to convince the interlocutor that there are also various perceptions, if you see that the other party is showing resistance (I hesitate to use the word “wall”), then maybe it is time to stop convincing the party or, if the personality is important to you, you shall simply acknowledge that and accept the other view on things, in the same time saying that that view is contrary to your view.
However, the question is how to avoid this difference in viewing things:
- Communication –
o Open and sincere — if you do not want to have misunderstanding, it is essential to have open and sincere communication with the interlocutors. Every hiding or closeness inevitable results in misunderstanding.
o Avoid written communication — the people like correspondence and misunderstandings are most likely to arise in such correspondence. In writing you can convey very little or what you actually wanted to say. Since we already know that we can convey very little, try to understand with the other person using face to face communication or, at least, by telephone.
- Focus — in addition to being focused on things you present and in trying to convince the others that your concept is the right one, you should be also focused on things that others have to say. Ask additional questions for explanations and do not assume some things in advance…
- Fear — many people are afraid from unknown or from reflection of own fears. They are simply closed for acceptance of different views on things. No matter how strange this might sound, they are simply not opened and they do not embrace other ideas or views. You should not be afraid of failure or success of the work, even if it is not in your way! Be open for suggestions.
The most important thing when it comes to different perceptions and how to avoid them is for everyone involved to have same or at least similar beliefs and intentions for the work to succeed. If that minimum is met, the likelihood of having different perceptions on things is very small but still, having in mind the characters of the people and how open or closed they are, different perception on things is still likely to occur.
Wishing you success with the changes to come,
@kalin.babusku
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