#TOW — I had NO choice!
Have you ever said it before, or have you noticed someone use this expression — excuse a lot?!
WE ALWAYS HAVE A CHOICE! There’re always at least 2 additional solutions than what we have at the moment! The difference is that we don’t often like these solutions. They demand hard work or sacrificing something dear, there are possible consequences or they might take you out of your comfort zone. It’s always easier to say “I had no choice” than to strain our mental and physical capacities. We should always be aware of the consequences we’re prepared to endure.
· If I don’t want to do the manager’s assignments, if I don’t like the atmosphere at work and the salary, I always have the possibility of doing something in order to improve that state or I simply leave the company. There, you’ve got 2 solutions!
Of course, there are situations where in order to adapt to reality you don’t have a lot of choices, but here we’re talking about a deeper analysis of this concept and how that influences our way of working or living.
I had no choice = Victim (ego role)
I had no choice = Lack of power
I had no choice = Fear
I had no choice = Laziness (it’s easier to say that I had no choice)
I had no choice = (Non)motivation
That closes you. It doesn’t allow you to think positively, nor outside the matrix. It’ll always limit your options and pull you away from the perception of abundance of possibilities (as that’s the reality). The basis of living is noticing and using the possibilities. If you constantly think “I had no choice” and lock yourself inside your safety belt, you can’t think that tomorrow you’ll have the capacity to manage a critical situation (at work or home). Exercising the mind to think about several possible choices leads toward different thinking. Thinking with more options.
In reality and at work this attitude allows the “business” people not to make an effort or give a little more in order to achieve something, thus push the limit of “minimal competences” and with it develop personally as well.
What are the steps you need to bear in mind in order to reduce the presence of this excuse in your everyday talk?
1. Awareness: we must be aware of how often we use it and in which situations. Self-analysis.
2. Alternative: don’t think about how to justify the excuse “I had no option”, but immediately think of possible solutions. Yet we have to be aware that we may not like the choice we have.
3. Consequences: we must be aware of all the consequences of the defined alternatives and the risks, and be prepared to deal with all of them.
4. Decision: consciously make a decision and decide on a solution.
I wish you success with your changes!
